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Hello , Peter, very nice to meet you. Thank you for giving me this lesson in Chinese business etiquette.Not at all. Now I have to ask you, am I dressed for the part?Absolutely perfect for Chinese business meeting, conservative color, long skirt. All right, good to hear. Well let's start the meeting then. Let's go, this way. This is my business card.Thank you.Notice how I present it to you with the English side facing you.Oh, OK , then I should do the same for you.Here is my business card. Oh, wonderful.Should I have ... you get yourself a Chinese name . Notice how I spend a little bit of time paying attention to detail of the card as a sign of respect. A business meeting sometimes ends with a gift exchange. Here are some CNN branded gifts. Would these be appropriate to give in China?Er , some of them like the iPod might be too expensive, it could carry a bribery undertone. But the other side might feel uncomfortable, because we, he would have to reciprocate with something of equal value. Of this , this is a photo CD. Would this be a more appropriate choice?That is a perfect gift , that is , introduce your company, your city or your country.Ok, well, that wraps up the session here but our etiquette lesson will continue tonight over dinner?Ok, I'll see you then. So Peter, tell me, how important is dinning to building a business relationship in China ?It is a cultural way. Chinese people regard eating as one of the most important things in their lives as they say "民以食为天".What does that mean?That means eating is as important as the sky.Now this is the dish that maybe some overseas businessmen or women might find a little bit unpalatable----it’s sea slug. We also have a sautéed bullfrog . If, if you are a business person you are being offered these as a guest in China, and you don't want to eat it. What'd you do?I would just say "谢谢,这个我免了"."谢谢" like this, and then no one's feelings are hurt , (no one's feelings...) everything is fine (right) . And now we have the fish, I notice it's looking at me, it's pointing this direction. What does that mean? That means er, you would have to drink a glass of white liquor because the head of the fish is pointing toward you. Ok, then ...That's that's a custom from the North.If that is a custom, then I would have to drink a glass of white liquor, so please. Ok, now these white liquors are pretty serious stuff. When being served this, can the guest be in a position to decline at all?Yes, but the, the host would naturally prefer that you join him in drinking it. Well, I'm going to have to join the host then to a toast? That's right .Ok, now I've just struggled to get lower than your glass. That's right , and the host , try to lower his glass under yours to show his respect to you. Bottoms up!"干杯!" "干杯"Kristie Lu Stout, CNN shanghai 200809/48178

Okay, so, some of the gripes are major and some of the gripes are minor, but Katherine Crowley and Kathi Elster have written a book called "Working With You Is Killing Me: Freeing Yourself from Emotional Traps at Work", and the management consultants say:"looking at this book would teach you how to deal with the aggravating people who make you d going into the office." They join us now. Good to have you with us.Good morning.I say "Good morning" with some trepidation. Don't (inaudible) But, it, it's always er.. risky to try to summarize a book to the authors of that book. But, as, as I what you say, you say "Quit complaining",(Right),"Do something". But, and this is the part that surprised me, the best thing to do is to change yourself because you are not gonna change the other person.That's right, Charlie. What we found in working with many, (a) thousands of people over the last 20 years is that we all know it's futile to try and change another person. So, the best thing you can do is begin by changing your internal reaction and then we give you very concrete tools for how to change your experience.What, what's this business about unhooking yourself?Right, well, we give you this process. It's actually four steps and the first two steps are to cool down your system. Because as we all know when we get upset, when someone, those co-workers really annoy you, you immediately get upset. So the first two steps are to deep breathing or doing some sort of physical exercise if you can run out of the building and walk around the block.Yeah you say you spend a lot time talking people off the ledge(exactly),which is essentially calming them down .It's cooling their system down.Okay, but once you've done that and that seems very intuitive, then what do we do?Well, the next two steps would be taking action.Yes, to unhook verbally as what we say, so you find something to move the situation forward and you take the high road not accusatory but a win-win kind of communication, and then you look for a business tool whether it's documentation of some kind or sending out an e-mail or referring to a job description.Okay, but it seems, isn't it a little defeatist to say you have to change yourself? Er, the, the... really it's 'me' that has to change as supposed to the other person?Well, have you ever changed anybody?I've tried many times; it's not really possible. So if you...No, you can't, you can't affect a personality transplant in other people, I agree with that. You can't change somebody. But if you can change your reaction to them you'll have a much better love-work life.Yeah but they are still gonna be annoying, aren't they?That's right. That they are not gonna change and part of the book we explain to you how to depersonalize and detach and stop taking it personally.Alright, you spend a lot of time telling me about types of workers, co-workers and types of bosses.(Right)So,give me the, the most common annoying type of co-worker.The most common annoying type of co-workers, actually what the viewers were talking about, er, they are called "boundary-busters". So, whether it's someone who invades your space, makes too much noise, eats up your time, chews your ear off. Those are boundary-busters.And how do I deal with them?Most of the time you do have to confront the boundary-buster. But what we suggest is again cool your system down(Correct! ) ,make sure, you know, make sure you take the high road and when you do confront and communicate with them, you say in a way that they actually say:Oh,okay, I hear you, rather than yelling at him. What we tend to do is" You are so loud" instead of saying:" you know what, it really bothers me, I can't concentrate when your, when your voice goes up, so can you please calm it down? " So it's a way, it's a communication style and we give many examples in "Working With You Is Killing Me".Okay, and, and what's the worst kind of co-worker? May not be the most common but the worst.Well, what we call the worst kind, what we've decided among ourselves is the "saboteur" and this is because this person will speak very sweetly to you. And in the meantime, stab your back, one way or another, behind, behind you.Right, and what I do about that?Well, you have to be your own, wage your own PR campaign. As soon as you detect that somebody is talking negatively about you. And usually somebody will warn you or you can sense that your relationships with other people are deteriorating. You, you need to just make sure that you're at every meeting and you know when this person is speaking to someone else that you can get in and find out what they are saying. And wage your own PR campaign get people to speak better of you, at ultimately they get caught.Right. The key with the saboteur is you have to detect it. So if someone says to you something like watch out for Susie Q, She's known for doing that kind of thing, you really wanna listen.If they tell you she is a snake, she is probably a snake.(She perhaps...Exactly)And most common problem with the boss?Er, you know, personally I think it's the exploder, although a second too, would be the avoider. You know, the boss that...Exploders are the one who yell(s) at you, the avoiders are the one who doesn't address the problem.Exactly. They are afraid of confrontation and they are both equally awful. Nobody wants to get yelled at, and no one wants a boss that doesn't have your back. If you go to them for a raise but that would be a confrontation for them to get you a raise, they're just not gonna do it.So...When does it get to the point that either you have to quit or the annoying person has to quit?That's a really good question. And what we say in "Working With You Is Killing Me" is that, you actually have to figure out your tolerance level and you also need to determine what are your fatal attractions. For some people an exploder as Cathy mentioned is tolerable, they can...if they use our technique and learn to manage up, they can deal with it; for others that is just not acceptable and the toxins from working with someone like that literally wear away at their health.You know, when you really ask people in "Working With You Is Killing Me" is to, to learn to assess yourself and what your tolerable level is ,what you can really tolerate.All right , all right , thanks to both of you, appreciate it. 200809/48375

But despite the Mongol's attempts to master siege warfare, the Chinese were still much more advanced in their military technology. They responded by filling bombs with crude oil, molten metal, chemicals and excrement. Despite the ferocious bombardment, Genghis Khan ordered his men to advance to the walls. Once again, Chinese prisoners were in the front line. As the city fell, the Chinese commander had just one option. Genghis Khan was so confident of victory that he left his army to capture the city. His final command to his generals was to fulfill his prophecy. He ordered total annihilation. molten: melted, liquefied by heatexcrement: waste discharged from the body, fecesannihilation: destruction, ruin; extinction, extermination200809/50120

Aid Agencies Warn Insecurity on the Rise in Afghanistan援助机构称阿富汗安全局势恶化  International aid agencies are expressing concern about the deteriorating security situation in Afghanistan, noting that problems have sp to previously stable areas and attacks on aid agencies and their staff are on the increase. 国际援助机构对阿富汗安全形势恶化表示关注。他们指出,问题已经蔓延到原来局势稳定的地区,而且对援助机构及其工作人员的袭击越来越多。Aid agencies say rising insecurity in Afghanistan is hampering efforts to provide relief. The Agency Coordinating Body for Afghan Relief or ACBAR, represents about 100 non-governmental aid organizations. In a just released statement, the group also says that the number of civilians killed in the Afghan conflict is on the rise - up by approximately 50 percent over the same period last year.  援助机构说,阿富汗不安定的局势升级,阻碍了救援工作。“阿富汗救援协调机构”代表大约100个非政府救援组织。该机构刚刚发表的声明还说,在阿富汗冲突中被杀害的平民人数在上升,大约比去年同期上升了50%。Speaking with VOA from her office in Kabul, ACBAR spokesperson Anja de Beer says that while most of the deaths are attributed to insurgents, the international and Afghan forces are also responsible. Some of the deaths she says occur in aerial bombings but there are also cases where she alleges they are the result of excessive force. 阿富汗救援协调机构发言人比尔在喀布尔的办公室对美国之音说,虽然大多数平民死在暴乱分子手中,但是国际部队和阿富汗军队也应该承担责任。她说,一些人死于空袭,但是也有人死于过度使用武力。"There are unfortunately instances that a search is conducted by coalition forces and the Afghan forces, sometimes there are extra-judicial executions, that luckily seems to be the exception," said de Beer. 比尔说:“不幸的是某些死亡事故发生在联军和阿富汗部队发动的搜查中,有时还发生非法处死人的事例,但是幸好看来这是个别情况。”De Beer added that the insurgents are gaining a foothold in areas where they were not so strong before. This, she says, has forced the closure of a large number of schools and health facilities in the south; is hindering the implementation of vital development projects; and has caused significant levels of internal displacement. 比尔还说,暴乱分子正在某些过去他们力量薄弱的地区取得立足点。她说,这已迫使在南部关闭大量学校和卫生设施,这还阻碍了至关重要的发展项目的进行,而且已经导致大批人口流离失所。The ACBAR statement says that aid agencies are also increasingly being targeted by both insurgents and criminal elements. This, it says has forced many relief agencies to restrict their development and humanitarian activities. 阿富汗救援协调机构的声明说,暴乱分子和罪犯对救援机构的袭击日益频繁。声明说,这迫使许多救援机构限制自己的发展及人道活动。Relief officials worry that with a drought in some parts of the country and increased food prices, over four million Afghans are facing extremely difficult circumstances. They say that young children, and pregnant and breastfeeding women are at especially high risk.  救援工作人员担心,由于阿富汗国内某些地区的旱灾以及食品价格上涨,400多万阿富汗人面临及其困难的境地。他们说,儿童和妇及哺乳的妇女处境尤其危险。ACBAR's Anja de beer says her organization believes the Afghan conflict cannot be solved on the battlefield. 比尔说,她的组织认为,阿富汗冲突不可能在战场上解决。"What is needed for sustainable peace is support for development and delivery of essential services to the population, government reforms and peace building initiatives," she said. 她说:“持久和平需要的是持发展、向民众提供基本务、以及政府改革和开展和平方案。”De Beer also said perceived corruption by the Afghan authorities turns members of the public against the government. Also, she added, the agricultural sector needs more support and that aid should be delivered in a more efficient and effective manner. 比尔还说 ,由于阿富汗当局被认为很腐败,使阿富汗公众反对本国政府。她还说,农业部门需要更多持,而且应当以更迅速和更有效的方式提供救援。200808/45401

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